My Mom is mortified that I refer to a book frequently while parenting. But, things have changed and once in a while it's nice to consult with a 'professional' when things get tough. You do need to trust yourself and your gut and other Mommies at all times. Books will not stop your baby from crying from a 2:00am ear infection.
What books do you recommend? Leave your suggestions in the comments!
I would recommend that all parents-to-be read/skim the following:
Happiest Baby on the Block - if you have a colicky baby these suggestions will help. We used the 5's on my daughter every moment of the day. You only need to read the first half to learn the concepts!
The No Cry Sleep Solution - or really any sleep book. Whether you believe in CIO (Cry It Out) or not, or whether you want to co-sleep or not, it's a great idea to read a little about the different theories out there so you are prepared. This is one that I read, but any book or two will do. I unknowingly started a habit of co-sleeping with my first and I could not CIO (she would puke after 5 mins of screaming). I didn't know what to expect and my 3.5 year old still has trouble sleeping alone. At this point I'm assuming I will have to sleep with her until the day she marries. You will have to choose the best method for yourself, but it helps to be aware of the options. I also really enjoy co-sleeping but was hoping that it would eventually stop.
Boys Should be Boys - I'm starting this one soon. Her book on Strong Father's Strong Daughters (written for father's but I read it too) was really good so I wanted to try this one. http://www.amazon.com/Boys-Should-Be-Secrets-Raising/dp/034551369X/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1354547862&sr=1-3&keywords=dr+meeker.
Haven't read it yet though.
I'm now picking up books on the best way to discipline my pre-schooler, but I'm going to leave those off the blog... I don't want to scare you about what is to come after the cute infant stage. Just remember the Terrible Two's is a misnomer. While tough, the THREEs will push every limit you have. Remember, never judge that lady at Target who is dragging her kid across the parking lot until you have walked in her shoes!
Also, not a book, but your pediatrician's website may have valuable information as well!
Haha, sorry Kristin, so far the 4's are the worst. I was really hoping that it was the terrible two's but it increases exponentially every year.
ReplyDeleteFor me...Happiest baby on the Block helped with sleep then I ditched all books and resorted to good old GOOGLE every time I needed it. Which was almost every day of my life. hahaha
Jessi
Say it isn't so. I'm not surprised though. I just couldn't believe how much worse 3 was. Two is bad because they can't communicate, but when they are 3 they can communicate too well, especially these sassy girls. I agree, I stopped reading too... never even got through What to Expect the First Year.... just asked the ped. Do not, I repeat do not, buy Happiest Toddler on the Block. What a bunch of melarky. We tried those suggestions, our daughter was not falling for the toddlerese it taught. (ex: kid crying because it wants to stay up. "You want to stay up?, you want stay up? No, no, it's too late." LIke repeating my child's wants over and over was going to change her mind. Crock. And you will sound like an idiot trying to use the strategy.
Delete2 is tough! Don't tell me 3 and 4 are worse! That scares me a little. I love every minute but the stubborn/fits/tantrums are tough! I got through what to Expect the First Year, The Sleep Book, and than I followed my gut! Jenn
ReplyDeleteI've heard people mention the SuperNanny books were good? -ker
ReplyDeleteSorry, 4 is so much worse. And we are halfway through. 3 was twice as bad as two and now 4 is really, really crazy. I keep asking people when it gets better and they just laugh so I guess never. They just turn into teenagers.
ReplyDeleteJessi
Jessi, I'm sorry I told you..."wait until you grow up and have a daughter"......hahahaha
ReplyDeleteLove,Mama
...actually, I'm not sorry at all.....love, love, love SJ and can't wait to love, love, love Tadpole!
ReplyDeleteThe only books I used were pre- and during pregnancy. I guess I just winged it once she was here! But I also was able to text our Pediatrician - and I had a breastfeeding support group. They were my subs. :)
ReplyDelete~Michelle